Self pleasuring. A big problem, or a bigger problem?

[Brian]

What do you all think about the act of self pleasuring, and how should one stop doing this. It seems as though it is a very addictive behavior. It is one that will often distract me from more important things. Recently I went a bit without performing this act, but more recently I failed and gave way to this behavior. Any suggestions?

[Ewan]

We had a thread about this awhile ago, I'll have a search for you.

I seem to remember most people saying it was good to do it every couple of days (for health reasons as well as pleasure) but not more. Probably varies depending on your age.

EDIT:

Here ya go: http://ipower.ning.com/forum/topics/abstaining-from-sexaul

[Brian]

That is an interesting topic. I think maybe it isnt so normal . Does anyone support that belief? I find it to be a sort of an addiction. I often feel I need to do it to sleep or to focus, although I do not want to do it at all, I find that to be a problem.

[Muhammed Gouda]

brian your not the only one with this problem you'll find what i'm doing in the comment below

[Daniel]

ignoring this urge to look on the brighter (cruder) side of your title ^^ i'ma go ahead and throw a couple of links out there:

Better Health: Masturbation (>.< wow would you look at whose name pops up... AGAIN)
"Medical Masturbation" (<< there are 2 parts fyi, "continue" at the bottom ^^)

so in all of that ^^ if the said is true, then masturbating at most ages isn't any "problem", so long as you're not masturbating in place of the things you'd usually be doing / feel you should be doing ^^ ie, so long as your potential to achieve is not being ruined in whatever fields of interest / responsibility you have... and... so long as your responsibilities in general are still being managed ^^ i guess if you're still feeling healthy in body and mind, then there's nothing wrong with a little beating the bishop / walking the plank / fiddling the.... fiddle? just make sure the masturbation ISN'T down to any kind of negative feelings elsewhere ^^ as it's always best to deal with issues at their source, rather than masking any ill feelings you have with flowers and pretty things (masturbation SO doesn't seem at home in this list hmm :P).
(lost my trail of thought :x.... stupid msn prr)

[Muhammed Gouda]

try to control your self as much you can stay in places where you can't masterbate
ask your self why do you masterbate a lot and get it solved
if you have something that you consider too elegant or divine,etc,,, to masterbate while it's on like in my case music and the Holy Quran(duh cuz i'm a muslim which you can see from my name) there's a lot of things to do to normalize your masterbation rate we could talk about it when your on line i reached from 10-15 times a day to thrice a day

[teh awezomg [flo]]

It's masturbate!! Not masterbate!!! aaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrg

(i think it is too late anyway, since you wrote it about 100 times in this forum...)

[Brian]

I don't know guys. I'm not exactly buying into this whole masturbation is as good as exercise thing. When I masturbate, I automatically want to masturbate more, seems like a drug sort of.

[Daniel]

as good as exercise? :P lol. to what purpose? :O
to me ^^ thus far, i get the impression you've already made up your mind on how positive / negative it is to masturbate frequently :) so... what you're really asking for in this discussion is how to reduce the amount of time you put toward thinking / acting on self-pleasure of the sexual kind???
i guess, physical activity would be the more likely to help (physical activity / focus / exhaustion)... although any kind of occupation of the mind should take focus elsewhere ^^ at least for a little while anyhow. although, ofcourse it's a stand-alone issue ^^ it's also pretty similar to a lot of other things in that, the "aim-of-the-game" = just plain wanting to stop thinking about this stuff :) in saying that, you may want to get watching >>>THIS<<<</b>, 14 minutes long :) the stuff you'll / you might be interested in isn't 'til just before half way somewhere ^^ though that shouldn't be an excuse to skip!! :O cheaterrrr...

i haven't read too much into it, though... if i'm remember rightly from the last time i had this discussion somewhere, refraining from any kind of sexual exertion, leaves little other room for the body other than to turn to your sleepy time ^^ with your mind in its current state, thinking of masturbation so much and all, i guess this can be a headsup to perhaps expect a mess here and there??? i suppose this is a lot to do with control of the thoughts ^^ i'm not saying mess is inevitable (because i truly don't know if the body NEEDS that, what i do know is the longer you leave it, the bigger the load :O which... although crudely put, is said to be totally true ^^), though :) i guess you're the only one stopping you?? what with getting so caught up on the good feeling of ejaculation that you've wound up alllways wanting? ^^ you don't need to masturbate that much :P (if at all? if we're talking about necessity ^^), so i guess... it might come down to having a look at exactly what else there is you do with your time... because more importantly ^^ masturbation, especially excessive masturbation, isn't all too productive :P surely there are other things you can feel are more important?? maybe turning your focus toward the things that may give your life some real bearing in the direction you'd want ^^ will help convince yourself that "once is enough" :P
anyhow i'm just blabbering hmm ^^ haven't actually checked out any official research >.< here's hoping that wasn't all a waste of time above :P
is any of what anyone's saying actually helping at all?? :O

[Jeremy Hanson]

Masturbation is exercise, it just isn't a very efficient or effective form of it. Also, when you have an orgasm, your brain does release specific chemicals that alter the way you feel.

In any event, the question of whether or not masturbation is good or bad is usually religious in nature, which leads to the conclusion that it is superstitious to think about it either way.

The only way to tell if masturbation is bad for you or you are masturbating too often is by taking a look at your behaviors leading up to and right after the time that you masturbate.

If you are exhibiting addiction like behaviors, then you might be masturbating too often.

As for me, I try to do it at least once a day, and I usually try to time it right before I go to bed, and it usually helps me fall asleep sooner.

[Muhammed Gouda]

i know how that feels here's another thing that can help you Try going out with your friends the whole day for a week or 2 this will definitely help you a bit

[Paladin]

What problem?

[Johnny Polygon]

It's totally normal for guys and girls to... in some quantity.

Once you feel the urge and craving to do it again all of the time you should look at how it impacts your life. If you feel handicapped of it and are conciouss that you may have an "addiction" do not worry. How much somebody does it depends on them, I guess the avarage is maybe 1-8x a week. But, this depends all on yourself. Do not think you're different just because you do it more often.

When people first discover it there may be this phase where you feel the need more often then you would later on (this typicall goes away in 1-2 years or a few months). It is a great and simple way to release stress and anxiety for people and normal as fuck (see what I did thar).

This addiction is mostly caused by insecurity about yourself and/or your sexuality.

You alone must know if this "addiction" (which what you call it) is acceptable or if it gets in the way of you and your daily life, if this is the case.. Seek help, first online maybe (anonymous, easy, fast) and look at a few articles.