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Location: Hearts of Oppressed Men and Women Everywhere
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Becoming Badass
"What you become is infinitely more important than what you do or what you have."
- Mathew Kelly
The meaning of life, according to author Mathew Kelly, is to become "the best version of yourself."
The message of his new book "The 7 Levels of Intimacy" is that an intimate relationship, whether between lovers, family, business partners, or friends, is one in which both parties are working to help the other become the best version of themselves. The first line of the book is "Sex is not intimacy." That should be clearly understood. From my understanding of Kelly, intimacy is a quality that a relationship has when the people involved are aware of each others' legitimate needs and are working to help each other become the "best version of themselves."
I created this group for people to share specific and effective strategies that they've used to help them toward this ideal of the "best version of yourself." Even if nobody else were to join this group, my goal is to provide as much quality content as I can, and I believe that the people who do join should do the same. If even just one person can take something positive away from what we've written and use it to become a better version of themselves, then I would consider this group a success. Also, the discussions should not be about, to any degree, my own ideas or strategies. They should be a collection of ideas and strategies from each of us, along with replies from the rest of the group. I want this group to be as rich in content as possible. If you have any suggestions, let us know through comments at the bottom.
Goals:
1. Explore who the "best version of yourself" might be.
2. Determine what course of action will achieve your "best self."
3. Share the strategies you're using and actions you're taken.
Here are the seven "Levels of Intimacy":
(according to Mathew Kelly)
First Level: Cliches
Second Level: Facts
Third Level: Opinions
Fourth Level: Hopes and Dreams
Fifth Level: Feelings
Sixth Level: Faults, Fears, and Failures
Seventh Level: Legitimate Needs
If you don't already have "The Seven Levels of Intimacy," I would recommend it as required reading.
Discussion Forum
How Men and Women Relate 28 Replies
In the spirit of "Approaching Women," Stephanie and I wanted to start a more generalized discussion about issues concerning about how men and women relate. I believe that this topic is closely relat…
Tagged: attraction, women, relationships, men, best
Started by Daniel Lockwood. Last reply by Martin(Marcin) Jul 14.
The First Step 15 Replies
In your opinion, as an average citizen of the world, what is the first step toward becoming "the best version of yourself?"
Tagged: step, pimp, life, philosophy, sex
Started by Daniel Lockwood. Last reply by Fien Feb 17.
Inability to communicate 25 Replies
I apologize beforehand; this post will probably be a long one. And I wish to thank all of you who take the time to read it (if you've gotten that far, you might as well comment :p) For years, in hig…
Tagged: trust, inability, emotions, communication
Started by Fien. Last reply by alex Feb 9.
What Did You Get Done This Week? 56 Replies
So what did you get done today, outside of your regular school/work routine, that helped you toward becoming the best version of yourself? What are your plans for tomorrow? Let's get in a habit of…
Tagged: yourself, get, of, done, best
Started by Daniel Lockwood. Last reply by Daniel Jan 30.
The Best Version of Yourself 17 Replies
Who is the "best version of yourself?" What differences are there between this self-actualized version of yourself and the person you are now?
Tagged: myself, actualized, yourself, philosophy, best
Started by Daniel Lockwood. Last reply by Fien Jan 17.
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Martial Arts: Physical, Mental and Spiritual Evolution. 1 Reply
This discussion is dedicated to those who wish to share how they've progress in those three fields, Physically, Mentally, and Spiritually. Also for those seeking knowledge on how to better obtain…
Tagged: spiritual, improvement, progress, mental, evolution
Started by Kaze [Bushido]. Last reply by TheStoneBreaker Dec. 11, 2008.
The Secret of Relating to People 4 Replies
Tell them only just enough. About your own thoughts... or in regard to their own opinion... or about your own fears... or their own dreams... And then, in the middle of an idea, mindful of the othe…
Tagged: dreams, fears, life, people, secret
Started by Daniel Lockwood. Last reply by Tuak Jul. 29, 2008.
Quotations 10 Replies
What quotes have helped you become the best version of yourself? I use a database called The Quotations Page to find quotations that inspire me. I'll share a few examples here of quotes that have in…
Tagged: quotes, sex, best, version, quotations
Started by Daniel Lockwood. Last reply by Daniel Jul. 19, 2008.
Losing Weight 29 Replies
Another topic that would definitely belong in this group, especially for us American folk. What are some strategies that you've felt have helped you either maintain your weight or that helped you reg…
Tagged: television, lose, weight, daniel, walk
Started by Daniel Lockwood. Last reply by Fien Jul. 18, 2008.
Where Do You Get Your Knowledge? 6 Replies
What books, music, movies, sites, etc... do you feel have helped you become the best version of yourself? Let's share access to the media that has helped us become our best selves!
Tagged: books, movies, music, philosophy, daniel
Started by Daniel Lockwood. Last reply by Baco Jul. 15, 2008.
Helpful Personal Skills and Talents 11 Replies
Update: Please Read This is your reference for the skills and talents of the I-Power community (or at least those who choose to post here). The best way for you to develop the skills and talents whi…
Tagged: time, philosophy, daniel, skills, talent
Started by Daniel Lockwood. Last reply by Kaze [Bushido] Jul. 14, 2008.
We are what we eat 2 Replies
The tittle says everything but i'll make you the favor to write a few more things:P We already know how what we eat affects our body weight , and causes or prevents cardiovascular diseases. Recent…
Started by Dimos. Last reply by Dimos Jul. 9, 2008.
Making Change Happen 5 Replies
Change happens based on the choices we make. So then, assuming we all want to make positive changes in our lives and other people's lives, we have to learn to make those choices that are most liking…
Tagged: change, conservative, philosophy, daniel, liberal
Started by Daniel Lockwood. Last reply by Dimos Jul. 5, 2008.
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Comment by Supersagi on January 18, 2009 at 5:48pm - well i hope to be selected foe the expedition towards hollow earth
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Comment by Isamu Dyson on December 9, 2008 at 8:19pm - Hope to achieve this goal but i need to choice starting direction because i see to many routes to take actually.
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Comment by Rory on August 11, 2008 at 8:56pm -
Wow.. The first discussion I stumbled across and it's already given me a lot of food for thought.
"You can learn more in an hour of silence than you can from a year reading books."
I've never really tried that before, the answers I came across were surprising, to say the least.
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Comment by Tania on July 26, 2008 at 7:01pm -
It looks a very interesting book :)
I think a good friend of mine just bought it... definitely a book i am gonna ask to borrow!
i think this is a very interesting group :) we should all be the best version of ourselves...
i have a lot of flaws which i am working on. eacht day i make a list of things to do for the next day, and this seems to work for me. a day up front is not far away which is the reason i most of the time do the things i have to do i think. i know the weekly to do lists don't work for me...
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Comment by Mitsi on July 2, 2008 at 3:10pm - I've never heard of this book, but it seems to be intresting. I hope to learn a lot from this group. Lets become the best versions of ourselves!
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Comment by Dylan on June 24, 2008 at 7:45am - I really like what's being written here
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Comment by Andrew on May 28, 2008 at 9:56am - I agree with Matthew Kelly, about achieving the best of myself, just hope I don't have to be selfish to do that.
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Comment by 1101010101010011 on May 28, 2008 at 9:18am - Thanks for the Invite =)
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Comment by Daniel Lockwood on May 28, 2008 at 2:49am - If like the idea of becoming your best self, please invite your friends to come here and discuss how we can help each other do this!
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Comment by Aspiral Architect on May 25, 2008 at 4:52am - I'll check that book out. "The Inner Path of Leadership" by Joe Jaworski is one you should pick up
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